Sunday, April 7, 2013

Three Suggestions When Things Pile Up

Sunday, April 7, 2013 - 9:15 PM - Day 15 of new blog

Well, it's the 15th day of writing this blog. It's become a comfortable ritual I participate in much like my daily meditation practice, brushing my teeth and taking my vitamins:))

I've discovered creating a ritual is the best way to commit to something. It makes it special. It makes it sacred.

One area that is difficult to create a ritual with is keeping up with my email. So many emails come in each day - various lists I subscribe to, catelogs, LSF-related mailings, and the 3 F's: friends, family, forwards!

When your schedule is super busy you can get behind on these emails. Most of us do!

I went through 285 emails tonight, instead of writing a new article for our website.
Was it a priority? Tonight it was, because I was in the mood to go through all those emails.


When things pile up and you haven't kept up with them, here are 3 Suggestions to remedy the situation:

Strike when the Iron's Hot - when you get in the mood to tackle a particular project, just do it. Drop everything else. If you don't, you most likely will not get in the mood to do it again for quite some time.
This is what I did today, and it worked!

List and Plan - the opposite approach from my first suggestion is to make a list of all those tasks that need to be attended to and prioritize them. Once you are aware of what needs your attention, grab a calendar, choose a day and plan on doing it that day.

Go on an Adventure - shifting your attitude towards projects you easily ignore can make all the difference in the world. Instead of dreading the task, cultivate curiosity and interest, like you're on a treasure hunt! This is a great strategy for my "hoarding" friends out there for doing something about the clutter. It is spring cleaning time:)))

See you guys tomorrow,
Marilyn


Saturday, April 6, 2013

The Elusive Why

Saturday, April 6, 2013 - 10:15 PM - Day 14 of new blog

I wrote a brief commentary yesterday on how to respond when someone asks you "Why?" regarding difficult challenges they are going through.

I'd like to share it with you:

The Elusive Why

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Today was a day filled with errands, tasks and spending time with dear friends.
I feel blessed to have the ability to be personally productive and enjoy a lovely night out.

I hope you all are enjoying your weekend:))

Marilyn



Friday, April 5, 2013

Antidotes to Overworking

Friday, April 5, 2013 - 8:30 PM - Day 13 of new blog

You know what the strange thing about "overworking" is?
You don't notice you've been overworking, but others do. Someone close to you may caringly tell you that you look tired, overworked, worn.
Once you are aware that others noticed this, you want to see if they are correct. You look in the mirror, and you realize don't look like you should.
Guess what? You've overworked yourself.

True story. This is my story - today.

So ... what to do? what to do?

STOP WORKING

Rest without guilt

Stop engaging the mind.

Get a lot of sleep.

Delegate

Rejuvenate

Good Night!

Marilyn :))




Thursday, April 4, 2013

Don't Be Fooled By Your Mind

Thursday, April 4, 2012 - 10:30 PM - Day 12 of new blog

I got overwhelmed by my life this morning. Total meltdown. I listed all the things that have to be done with no time to do them. It was depressing and frustrating.

I made sure I meditated despite how I felt. Created a high protein breakfast too!

I ended up having a great day at work - great sessions, more free time than expected, went out to lunch!

Then, Lou took me out to dinner at our favorite Italian place by the lake.

I'm a lucky woman.

Moral of the story - don't be fooled by your mind. It will tell you things are horrible all the time when the truth is THEY ARE REALLY NOT!!!!

Everything will be accomplished when it's meant to be accomplished and we are supposed to learn something from the delayed gratification. In the meantime - enjoy.

Stress free wishes to all ...

Marilyn


Wednesday, April 3, 2013

Listening Overload

Wednesday, April 3, 2013 - 8:30 PM - Day 11 of new blog

I would imagine it's rare to hear a clinical therapist describe what it's like to perform the professional responsibility of listening. I thought I would comment on that today.

First off, nobody becomes a therapist for their lifelong career unless they enjoy people and enjoy listening. This is very true for me. I love the uniqueness of people - their different personalities, their "quirkiness", the way people perceive life in such fascinating ways.

I'm reminded of one of my favorite movies - "As Good As It Gets" - in which Simon the painter says "if you watch someone long enough you begin to see their humanity".  I have experienced the same is true for listening.

One of the complications of listening for a profession is that the mind is not an endless receptacle for processing information. It needs breaks. Especially when a person is mindful about listening, giving someone their full attention. The receptacle fills even faster!

I've struggled with problem solving this dilemma throughout my years working as a therapist. I think I've found a balanced approach. Here are some of my solutions:

  • I limit the number of people I see each day. It took me YEARS to stop myself from seeing more people than I can handle. My secretary keeps me in line now. No more than 5 per day.
  • I return phone calls at the end of the day. When I schedule a small block of time for this, at a consistent time of day, I can prepare my "listening mind" for taking in the information. Also, many people solve their own problems while the day progresses and discover they didn't need me at that moment! whew;)
  • I use email to communicate as often as possible because it is less draining than listening.
  • When I'm on-call and have increased "listening" duties, I take more time to complete my other personal responsibilities. I slow down and I take more "Me-time" to replenish my drained energy.
  • I listen without judgment or bias. Judgment and bias are energy-drainers. They deplete your natural listening ability.

See you all tomorrow.
Marilyn

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Tuesday, April 2, 2013

Ridding Yourself of Unhealthy Habits

Tuesday, April 2, 2013 - 10:30 PM - Day 10 of new blog

My cognitive abilities are fading at this moment due to a very full day at work and on-call responsibilities.

So today, instead of a personal challenge to share, I'll share a metaphor I've been using in my therapy sessions:

Don't deal with unhealthy behaviors, whether it's in thinking, speaking or doing, by trying to stop the behavior ... or get rid of it ... or change your "bad habit".
Most often, even if you succeed, it will only be temporary:(

Instead, imagine you have a jar filled with tainted water. You also have many smooth stones, each one representing positive thoughts, positive words, positive deeds that you naturally engage in.
Simply drop each stone into the tainted water. As the positivity builds up the impure water will naturally just spill out of the jar. This is the way to permanenty rid yourself of unhealthy habits.

Have a good night everyone.

Marilyn


Monday, April 1, 2013

Money and Stress

Monday, April 1, 2013 - 7:45 PM - Day 9 of new blog

I think it's safe to say there is one particular stressor that is guaranteed to throw off my balance everytime. And not only me, everyone I know!

It is sneaky, quiet, elusive ... it pops up every so often just to disrupt our peaceful lives.
It is heartless, relentless and unforgiving.
It can change one's mood in a matter of seconds and ruin one's day quite easily.
It can cause blood pressure to rise, queasy stomach, headaches, weakness and fatigue.

Anyone guess what I'm referring to?

One of the top stressors of all time - award winning - the "CEO of Stress".

The winner is ........ lack of money.

Financial stress is a killer. And it can only be remedied by money! How ironic.

Here's my challenge:

How to bring a stress-free mindset to the reality of financial challenges?

Here are my solutions:


  • Keep the mind on this moment - it's easy to project worry into the unknown future and create a "worst case scenario" with thoughts alone. Anxiety gravitates to worry-fantasies. Don't get stuck there!
  • Focus on what you have not what you don't have.
  • Stop the leak. Cut back in certain areas that need trimming. Those areas are always obvious;)
  • Just move forward and trust...
  • Keep an open mind at all times and explore all possibilities to improve the situation. No bad ideas.


And don't forget abundance comes in many forms, money being just one of them.
I am grateful for the abundance of support from my readers. Thank You!

See you tomorrow,
Marilyn